Our ability to accept change can depends on our character and exactly how that change came about. Was the change instigated by us? Or was change forced upon us.
It’s often been said that we can do nothing about what comes our way in life, but we can control our reaction to those things that come our way.
Control is often a factor when dealing with change. Attempting to take control of every factor raises anxiety.
It may not be that you need to deal with the changes as much as wake up to the illusion of stability you once held.
In this life nothing remains the same, everything is in an ever changing state of flux. Most changes are slow enough for us to adjust gradually. However, every so often we experience a change which comes out of the blue and forces change at an uncomfortable pace.
It’s the sort of change which sees clouds gathering to spoil our perfect day. This doesn’t need to be negative, in fact it is the very type of change which presents the opportunities and promotes growth.
Our great uncertainty is made worse when we cannot see our destination on the horizon due to the gathering storm.
The storm you face now will pass, just like all the other storms which have passed before. The blue sky and horizon are still there and can be found when the clouds finally pass.
When change begins to unsettle your situation, it may help to think on these five things if you have time to S.P.A.R.E.
S – Stand
There are times when you simply need to ‘hold on’ and stand. To stand means to hold your ground. The same way you might if a bulkly was trying to push you over in the playground as a child. Do all you all you can to stand, and to stand firm.
P – Position
Are the changes causing challenges because you refuse to be moved from your comfortable position?
A – Advance
Is this new circumstance a time for you to advance? The discomfort of change could be the very thing you needed. Look for an opportunity to be positive, rather than focusing on the negative.
R – Red lines
Most things are open to negotiation, but it’s worth knowing the things which are not. These are the Red lines. Those things which you deem as immovable, unchangeable. Being clear on these will help you know if this is a time to stand still or advance.
E – Embrace
Rather than fearing change, embrace it. This could be the very thing needed to take from where you are, to where you need to be.
So change is an inevitable part of life. This could be your time to advance. Be patient, the chaos and the clouds will pass and the plan and purpose for your life remains the same.